
So, when Radley was first born, Chris didn't want to give him a binky, but my family and I, and our pediatrician thought it was important for a little baby to have something comforting to suck on. So, we gave Radley a binky...he didn't even like it for a long time but I kept giving it to him until he finally liked it. What was I thinking!? Chris hated it every time Radley had his binky because he couldn't see his cute face and when he got older, you couldn't hear him jabbering and trying to talk, it was all muffled and slobbery. So, when he turned one we sort of took it away, we only let him have it when he was sleeping. That worked for awhile, but now that he's older and smarter, he has been starting to want it all the time again. Whenever he's mad, or hurt, or tired, he goes running into his room and around the house trying desperately to find his binky and throwing a royal fit when he can't find it. We decided a couple days ago that it was time to totally get rid of the stupid thing. I tried all the tricks you hear, I cut the end off the binky, but that just ticked Radley off. He'd put it in his mouth and it wouldn't suck right, so he'd take it out, throw it across the room and then immediatley sprint over to it and try it again. He was so mad that it wouldn't work, but wouldn't quit trying to make it work or let me take it away. I decided I just needed to throw it away because the stupid cut binky was just making things worse. So, I told him it was broken and I threw it in the outside trash. He sat at the door banging on it and screaming and acting like a wild animal forever...I finally had to let our neighbors cat that Radley loves into the house to distract him (I soo don't like animals in my house). So, needless to say, my last couple of days have been a nightmare, naps are pretty much non-existant, although he has been going to sleep at night okay. I really hope that he forgets about the dang binky soon...he's pretty stubborn and determined though and he sure hasn't forgotten yet. If anyone has any great tips for me, or just some sympathy, let me know. All I know is that if I give my next baby a binky, she'll only have it until she's 3-6 months old like all the books suggest because taking a binky away from a stubborn, strong willed toddler is hell. Sorry for all the venting, hopefully my next blog will be a little more positive. :)
11 comments:
oh just let him be like all the 4 year olds i see at Walmart with a binky in one hand and a bottle filled with pop in the other. I won't judge you.
I wish I had some good advice but I'm all out.:( I do have sympathy though! That seriously sucks! I can only imagine.
Oh man, I'm sorry Dev. I'm not much help, Jacelyn wouldn't ever take a binky, and she still has her blanket, so we haven't had succes taking things away either! When we took the bottle away, I just had to work really hard to find anything I could to distract her. Luckily we didn't have a neighbor cat! Good luck! Hope we see you on Sunday. We're headed up for Tye's training and staying for Superbowl at Stacy's
I am sorry too. I am in the same position, reading your story was honestly like retelling mine. Sadie only has hers for naps and night time but it is her LIFE at those moments. She wont lay down without it and 10 seconds later she is out, but if she wakes up and can't find it-- everyone is in trouble. I have been in the same position saying it is time to go for binky, but it is harder than the other things. The bottle to sippy was a piece of cake she didn't care- but the binky UGH!!! she loves it. Let me know if you come across great tricks. I think I just need to pick a weekend and fight it out.
Ha ha, I say let him have it! I'm one of those mom's at Walmart whose 3 year old still has their binky, but I never have done the pop in the bottle thing, lol. My advice is probably the opposite of what most say, so I'll be quiet, even though it frustrates me that society thinks they're so bad. You guys do what you feel is right. =)
Dang- I hope he gets over it soon! Thanks for sharing though, I am glad I learned something it~!!
Get him a dog
that will distract him.
I hate Binky's we never gave our kids one and they all turned out normal; I think ..........they can read and write and seem to have no side effects from not having one.
Bart
Poor Radley!!! Don't get him a pet!!! Be consistent for a few days and he will get over it! Do you have any potty training ideas? Cole has no desire to use the toilet-He doesn't want to be a "big boy". He says he wants to stay little. What do you do with that!!!
Noah was a binky baby as well. I heard of this idea after his binky was long gone.. you can go all out and have a binky going away party. Make a cake and the whole bit. Might as well give it a try!
Dev,
Just seriously stay strong!! I know it sucks, but you so don't want a 3 year old sucking a binky!!!! One of my neighbors never took her kids binky away and it drove me nuts! You could never understand a word he said, so annoying! He will get over it. It will probly be harder on you than him....honestly!
Amen about the binki I take it away at 15 months no question they say that between 15 and 2 years they really start to get attached, Haiden cryed first night for thierty min and was over it. Kylie cried for two weeks. One thing I would recommend is dont give up on the nap. They eventually get over it and will still take a nap. My girls both did and at 31/2 haiden is still sleeping three hours in the middle of the day. Trust me with two kids you are going to need the nap. Keep up the good work. Miss you giuys
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